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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have three sons and they have told me often that girls LOVE to use the "You can't hit me, I'm a girl" card.

My sons have come home with bruises on their shins from girls kicking them, on their arms from girls grabbing them and squeezing. They've seen girls throw balls at boys' faces, smack them in their faces, punch them in the stomach. We're talking about upper elementary school.

There are girls who go way overboard provoking boys verbally and physically to tempt them to retaliate. I don't know if the boys ever do, I know that mine never have, but I do know it's some bullshit.

Discuss.
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Have you witnessed it first hand or are getting your 3 sons play on this?  I volunteer twice a week at recess and have seen major rough housing going on between boys and sometimes boys and girls.  I never see it with just girls - they use their words to hurt instead.  The girls that want to play with the boys are usually excluded from activities such as soccer, basketball etc.. because "because they are a girl."  I watched a group of boys excluding a girl into a game of soccer.  The PA told them she was allowed to play so instead the boys made sure to trip her up everytime she was on the field.  The one ran into her and knocked her down.  She got up and pushed him.  He went running to the PA to say that she on purposely pushed him and she was sent to the bench and they finished their all boys game.

So if you honestly think there are girls are recess punching boys and beating the crap out of them and the boys are doing nothing, you are probably wrong.  Why don't you go check it out for yourself.  Get involved.  [/quote]

OP. I mentioned in subsequent posts that I had been involved. I was notified in one situation that the girl was talked to several times and then her parent was brought in to meet together with the principal and a guidance counselor about her targeting of my son. Another time I mentioned it to a teacher at a parent-teacher conference and she said she was aware and that the teachers were going to crack down on it.

Let me be clear. It's not like this is happening constantly. Over a period of many years of having boys in elementary school, it pops up from time to time each year. My sons are not crying about it or dwelling on it. They might mention it at the dinner table or in the car and it's more like they are surprised that some girls think it's okay when they are used to having it drilled that they are never to hit a girl and it's a given for all boys. They wonder why girls aren't taught the same and that teachers are more likely to overlook it. That's what I was looking to gather some insight into.

I'm sorry to hear of the situation you've described. That's unfortunate. My boys typically play sports at recess. The boys and girls play together regularly, and my boys enjoy it that way.[/quote]

I think there are bullies of both genders.  I think girl bullies that bully on girls will quickly escalate into the girls telling the teacher right away.   Girl bullies then target boys because they are more likely to not go to the teacher.  Bullies of both sexes usually have issues at home and major self esteem issues.  Bullying is a release for them.  They pick the targets that are bothered by the abuse but still allow the abuse.  Teach your sons to ignore the situation and then talk to someone beside you, immediately after an incident.  If he is embarrassed, have him talk to the teacher separately later in the day.  But if it comes from him in a calming matter, I think the staff would do more than if it comes from you.  And sadly these days, the schools are so over crowded that recess, lunch and even the classroom aren't really well supervised.  [/quote]

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