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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH wanted to buy me $10,000 ring and he saved up for it.

When we discussed what type of ring I wanted, I selected $1100 ring.  I told DH that I did not want a big ring and that we should spend the money on something that we would BOTH enjoy and benefit from.  That money became part of the down payment on our first home.  And that $10,000 ring that he wanted to buy - he bought it for our 20th anniversary.

Not judging folks who do not think like I do - I just thought there was better use for that money.  We are not poor - we just prioritize differently. [/quote] I got married in my mid-30s and we both already had houses in the district and no other debt. I wanted a ring and he bought it. Just because people like nice things and spend money on it, doesn't mean they don't have their ducks in a row. [/quote]

I get that...but OP implied that her BF had to "save up" for the ring.  She is hurt because he did not save up.  That is completely different than having your ducks in a row, being well off and being able to write a check with little effort for the ring.  And TBH, that would factor into my "demand" for the ring.  If my DH has just been able to walk into the jewelry store and buy the ring, my take may have been different.  But he had to work, scrimp and save his own money for it.  I just did not want to start off our partnership like that given our circumstances. [/quote]

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