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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Maybe it's an age thing. I am 34 and she is 27. [b]Most nowadays don't have the exclusivity talk.[/b] It just progress and it's like an unspoken silence that we don't want to see others. I guess I thought that was what was happening here. We see each other 2-3 times week. I have had 14 dates with her in 2.5 months ( yes I kept count!). She has met my family and I have met hers. We have double dated with friends and everything. I was pretty confident we were exclusive. Seeing her with another man tore me up. I guess maybe she doesn't realize we are exclusive, or she doesn't feel the same as I do. I plan to call her tomorrow night.  [/quote]

Not true! Most women I know have been strung along too many times by guys who don't want to be exclusive. Until we have an actual talk about it, we assume you're dating other people (or at least are open to it). If you want to be exclusive, you need to talk about it. Chances are, she isn't sleeping with other people, but she's exploring some options. I have one friend who thinks she's in an exclusive relationship as soon as she's slept with a guy. She gets burned over and over, and everyone keeps telling her she should stop assuming exclusivity until the talk has been had. [/quote]

This is how many, many men are - you can meet anyone you want, but until you talk about it, assumptions are just that.

Change your attitude - you didn't "catch" her doing anything.  Man up and have the talk. [/quote]

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