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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I get it, OP. I'm not in big law. Far from it. I am an up-until-a-minute-ago single mom working in the non-profit sector. But I get it.

The house, the food in the fridge, the college fund (meager as it is), the music lessons, it's not from magic and fairy dust. It's from hard-as-hell work. And seriously, props for actually making the cookies. I threw a pizza from Sbarro's on the swim team potluck table. [/quote]

Me again. Wanted to add that, like it or not, IMO being female makes schmoozing even harder and even more necessary, because it's harder. [/quote]

As a former big-law non-equity partner, it is totally necessary, and, unfortunately. much much harder for women.  I feel for the OP because I led that life myself for many years.  And I found that, despite my knowledge, experience, and absolute commitment, I couldn't raise the book of business I needed to sustain it.  Eventually I concluded that I didn't want to try anymore - I was giving up too much for the possibility of achieving something very unlikely.  And, once I realized this, I also realized I don't need to make equity partner.  In fact, I ended up taking a govt job at the top of the GS scale, which equates to HALF of my prior earnings.  
But guess what?  Life is so, so much better.  And we can manage on two jobs like this (my husband has a similar salary) quite nicely.  No, I won't get a beachfront house in Rehoboth. ever.  But ok.  I don't need that.  And my family is so much happier and healthier, and I enjoy my life and marriage and child so much more.  Even work is better - I am a lawyer and colleague again, instead of being a salesman and competitor.  Please consider this if you think you're stuck in biglaw.  I say this with the best of wishes for those who are still there.
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