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[quote=Anonymous]OP, from one brother to another who has BTDT and has a good marriage on the other side to prove it......

Are you really ok with a lack of sex?  Really?  I wasn't.  At all.  But I also didn't want duty sex.  (Note to women - there is a big difference between the pity fuck, lying there and being visibly annoyed at having sex, and duty sex where you are really happy to feel close to your husband and enjoy his pleasure even if its not what you want to be doing).

Either way, you need to have a totally honest conversation with your wife.  For me, sex is the glue of the marriage.  No sex = feeling the marriage unraveling.  But I didn't want the pity sex.  So I was left in the same uncomfortable conversation where my wife would offer the pity and I would reject it and she would feel even worse.

Honestly, there was no good solution.  Some months were better than others.  Others were long slogs.  Yes, there was the cliche affair that was never discovered.  But we endured, and we are doing great now.

My best suggestion - set aside one day a week to have sex, whatever form that is.  Then, the pressure is off both of you to have sex the other days.  [/quote]

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