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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^^^^^ that. Actions have consequences. If you withhold affection and intimacy from your partner they may cheat. That cheating may lead to divorce. But ALL of those actions have consequences not just the cheating. If you are willing to take that risk by cutting them off from your love, from touch etc. then to be all betrayed and hurt when your spouse steps out is just dumb. [/quote]

You're right.  Actions have consequences.  So get a divorce.  The husband is telling the wife, to her face, that he won't have sex with her.  The wife, behind his back, wants to go sleeping around.  Do you see the difference?  I don't blame the wife for wanting sex.  She can have all she wants with other people.  There isn't any good reason to lie and do it behind her partner's back though.[/quote]

I agree OP should divorce too, mostly because she's WAY too young to be caretaker for a person who is an emotional mess and can't lead a normal life, and it will wear on her and she'll waste so many good years being this person's crutch. But if she thinks he literally won't survive a divorce, maybe this is the better option. I said this way back on page 1 or 2 but if her husband truly loved her, he'd find a way to address this anxiety in a way that didn't torpedo their sex life, or he would wish her well, tell her he loved her, and send her on her way to find happiness with someone who can give it to her. Doing neither, while blaming his anxiety and holding her to a celibate marriage, is reprehensible and weak.[/quote]

I agree, and believe there's more going on. He doesn't want to address it or compromise, I believe it's also an attraction issue.

Best to find new partners with more in common, especially since they are young.[/quote]

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