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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All these "stay married for the kids" and "what about the kids" and "I'd leave, but we have kids" posts make me want to shake some sense into the lot of you.

Your kids are NOT IDIOTS. They know something's up. Moreover, they know you're unhappy with your marriage. They'll see other parents who hug, kiss, hold hands, etc. and recognize that those things don't happen in their home. They will internalize the lack of loving companionship you and your spouse model as "normal marriage" and it will be your damn fault! If your spouse leaves you so devoid of physical companionship and intimacy that you're thinking of cheating, and you're using your KIDS as a reason to stay? Please take a good, long look at what your actions are actually teaching your children.[/quote]

Oh please, more of this deluded black and white thinking.  Cheating = broken marriage, family, individual nonsense.

I had two affairs that lasted several months.  No one had a clue.  I was actually slightly more affectionate with my spouse because the affair was a safety valve that took the pressure of the sexual aspect of the marriage that my spouse wouldn't participate in.  My kids had no clue either unless they had surveillance on my when I was away on business, which would be pretty sophisticated for a 3 and 5 year old.

For some reason, its soooo impossible for people to believe that a marriage could be working in every respect - love, respect, finance, companionship, child-rearing - but the sex just doesn't happen because one person doesn't feel the desire any more.  Or that everyone would be better off if the spouse that wanted more sex just ripped up the family and threw it in the trash.[/quote]

You are likely an asshole AND an idiot if you can claim a relationship is fine on "respect" while justifying an affair.  :roll:

And when you need a "safety valve" again (since you obviously didn't put in the time/effort/work to identify and solve whatever problem led you to use it in the first place), and your kids are older? What then?

What makes you think they're not already aware of the lack of companionship and affection between you and the spouse you cheated on multiple times?[/quote]

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