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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Shared legal is fine. 50/50 in a household with AP is not good. You have two possible scenarios:

1) AP resents that she just aborted her child to help you out. Do you think she will give a damn about being a nurturing stepmother for your DD.

2) AP doesn't give a damn about aborting her own child. Why would she care about the child of her romantic rival?
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 If you want joint physical, don't marry OW or cohabitate for at least a year. You need to see how she's going to treat your vulnerable toddler. [/b]A three year old can't even full express some of the crap an angry or cold-hearted non-relative might pull. [/quote]

OP, I don't know why this poster is talking about abortion. Aside from that, however, some good points are raised.

You MUST see how this woman is going to treat your toddler, and how your toddler will react to her, before you jump into a cohabitation scenario where your child will be living with this woman 50% of the time.

You even said yourself that you didn't spend much time with your wife while the affair was going on (so perhaps your child too?) -- so it is immensely unfair to divorce, then tear your 3 year old away from her mom half the time, to immediately go live with you and another woman.

Do you really not see how confusing and difficult that will be for your daughter? Perhaps the OW can stay in her residence now. You rent a separate apartment for the days when you have your daughter. When you don't have your daughter, you can live with the OW. This will give your daughter time to slowly adjust, and time to get to know the other woman before being forced to live with her.[/quote]

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