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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Working mom here, and IMO this thread belongs in the Relationship forum, not the Food forum.

As others have stated, there is a serious disconnect between your understanding and expectation of your full-time job (which you seem to view as "parent") and your DH's understanding and expectation of your full-time job (which he possibly views as "parent and household/family manager").  In your view, you are exceeding expectations by keeping the house clean.  In his view, food is in short supply and therefore you are failing at your job.  I don't think it's a question of which of you is right, it's a question of being in agreement about the roles that each of you play in keeping your family up and running.

In most families I know with a SAHP, the one that is at home cooks, which includes the meal planning and grocery shopping.   I do know one family where the working parent cooks most of the meals.  They all grocery shop as a family on the weekend, the SAHP gets things prepped or defrosted, but the WOHP is the one who actually enjoys and is good at cooking.

It is a hassle when the type of food and the timing for your 1yr old and the working parent(s) meals don't line up, but you just go with it.  Grab a roast chicken and steam some veggies to go with the baked potato for you and your DH.  Your toddler then eats small pieces of chicken, cut-up pieces of broccoli, bits of potato, and some fruit.

Talk with your DH.  He's not being unreasonable in his expectation, but the two of you just aren't on the same page.[/quote]

Op here- thanks and great way to frame the issue!  I have to go to bed-thanks for your thoughts! I'm going to talk to DH about it and figure out a plan. I agree as DS gets older we need to do better. 
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