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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I grew up UMC in DC and my DH, while being an educated professional, grew up LMC in a small southern town.

It is challenging. Unwritten rules I have to explain to him, manners, etc. We're still in our twenties and I expect he'll fully assimilate. [/quote]

Same here. I was married for a couple of years before I realized that the reason my husband doesn't know how to set the table is that his mother doesn't know!  She literally can't tell you how to arrange the fork, knife and spoon around the plate.[/quote] 
Worse than not knowing how to arrange them is not knowing how to use them properly. If I go on a date and a man wraps is fist around his fork when cutting meat or switches hands to eat becuause he doesnt know how to use his left to cut with a knife he's not getting a second date. Table manners are a sign of someone's upbringing. [/quote]

I agree (I'm original pp of this sub-thread). The only reason my DH has table manners is because he joined a fraternity where they were schooled on such things. [/quote]

My husband comes from a family with a lot of money (both parents are doctors), and he himself is a doctor.  He has no clue how to set a table or which fork to use.  If we ever have to have snobs like you over for dinner, we'll be sure to google it.

[b]Table manners and other social customs can be learned.  Idiots will never have brains.[/b][/quote]

I don't agree with this. You say your husband is from a family of doctors and he's a doctor too. Class is derived from generations of wealth and upbringing where old customs such as table manners were essential in how educated and formal wealthy people had to be. Your husband sounds more like new money but I know that family who came from wealth their table manners were really up there in importance of how it demonstrated their upbringing and class which was tied to wealth.[/quote]

Have you seen how "old money" is behaving these days? Paris Hilton anyone? How about Nat Rothschild? Please. Class is a stupid concept. You are either a solid human being with character or your are an undisciplined, self indulgent moron. People of both types can be found in every social circle. [/quote]

What a wealthy celebrity does to embarass her family (i read that Paris's grandfather excluded her from his will) has nothing to do with how her family whose from old money EXPECTS her to act. There are certain education and formalities that old money raises you with that you don't learn when you are an adult. If you embarass them with your antics however they will exclude you.[/quote]

Oh please. This is so ridiculous. Old money does not have the monopoly on manners or morals, quite the opposite. And if you look back beyond American "old Money" which is a laughingstock, to British aristocracy, even less so. The Hiltons are not old money by ANY means. They are very new, and very crude, the whole lot of them. [/quote]

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