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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Didn't your dh ever bring up your daughter in all those phone conversations? Like, "i can't believe Karla took hr 1st steps today, Jane and i are baby proofing the house now." Or " Yea, after Larla's holiday prek party we'll be on our way to mom and dad's house so well get there by dinner".[/quote]

OP here.  He rarely mentioned our daughter to his sister/her husband in order to be sensitive to what they were going through.  When he once in awhile did bring her up during their phone conversations, they didn't say anything.  And yes, he would sit through an hour long phone conversation over and over listening to them go on and on about their latest whatever, but in order to be sensitive to what they were going through, didn't bring up [b]our daughter's latest achievement/milestone,[/b] etc.[/quote]

[b]Despite your assertions, you don't seem very sensitive to their situation[/b].  At first, maybe they were in too much pain to ask about your DD but your DH's failure to include her in their discussions is his fault, not theirs.  Maybe they didn't bring up your DD because your DH didn't talk about her.  Maybe they thought your DH didn't bring her up because she had some challenges that he didn't want to talk about - as the parent of SN kids, I certainly know what that's like.

[b]This isn't about your DD, it's about you.  She has no idea who these people are.  It sounds like you're put out because they weren't able to oooh and aaaah about your DD's 'latest achievement/milestone'.[/b]  [/quote
But they didn't send birthday cards or gifts, no Christmas gift or card. Didn't acknowledge her at all. Left the house the one time they had to see her every year.
Come on now.
It's their only niece.[/quote]

+100 I can practically picture OP now. It is her first special snowflake and by darn the world needs to acknowledge it! Those infertility ILs just need to get over themselves and start hearing about her achievements and sending presents. They have missed FOUR WHOLE YEARS of presents and conversation about the glorious one! Who is the navel gazer now?[/quote]

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