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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents are kind of like this. I'm afraid kids cramp old people's style.  One time they were going to Italy and I wanted to go, and they blew it off like it was impossible with kids, which it probably was, but I bet some people do take their kids to Italy. Another time I suggested a family vacation renting a house somewhere and my mom acted like I expected her to cook for us all  (which I wasn't expecting of her).   I do Skype with them, but I'm lucky if my dad even appears on camera on Skype. They visit once a year, for like 7 days including travel days which is more like 5 days.  I'd like them to be closer, and it's disappointing they are not, but they are set in their ways and do what they want. They've been through raising kids so their grandkids are not that exciting to them. At some point you have to give up the fairytale and focus on people who want to vacation with you.[/quote] Today's parents (of which I am one) are largely overly controlling, micro-managing, critical and carry huge chips on their shoulders re parenting.  The older generations were generally more laid back, less involved in every minute details of their children's lives and less critical of those who interact with their children.  It is no wonder that grandparents are reluctant to spend time with their grandchildren when they will be observed like a hawk, criticized for everything they "do wrong" and ridiculed or subject to angry inlaws every time they open their mouths. Who in their right mind would put themselves in this situation voluntarily?  Geez, just reading the family forum makes me dread being a mil someday much less a grandmother.  The likely abuse is ridiculous.[/quote]

How would you know since you're not a grandmother yet?  Reading a bunch of posts here is not real life. And in my personal experience, boomer grandparents are selfish grandparents who their grandchildren will not care about when they're older and can see their selfishness for themselves. [/quote]

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