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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My sis and I are on different paths.  She coasted for a while after college, worked for years at a movie theater, lived at home for free or nearly free, etc.  Substantial drug use.  But she now has an office gig making around 50k.  She is 30, engaged to a guy making around 70k, and they live together.  They are trying to buy a home, and apparently she is getting a big assist with her down payment from mom.  I think 50k.  She has gone from shopping for homes around $350k to $500k.

I am mid 30s, a lawyer in biglaw.  married to a lawyer working part time at a small firm.  HHI around 400k.  We are semi-frugal but have kids to support, high child care expenses, etc.  We are doing well.  But, we are looking to move to a top school district in 2017 and don't have enough cash for a down payment yet.

I asked mom if she was going to match her gift to my sis with one to me, and she said no.  I know my financial picture is better than my sis's, but that's because I put myself through law school, work harder, have been more responsible.  Anyway, I just don't think it's right for a parent to make such a big gift to just one child.  She wouldn't get my sis nice Xmas gifts and me crappy gifts or no gifts.  She wouldn't leave my sis 60% of her estate and me 40%.

So, is this fair or unfair?  (For the record, I would never have asked for help, just wondered if I could expect something).  Would you subsidize your own kids unevenly like this?      [/quote]

Good news is, your sister will end up being the primary caregiver of your parents as they grow older.[/quote]

Absolutely.  You slight me, I am not going to be the one, that's for damn sure.

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