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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ah I see pp attempted to explain. She just doesn't have male friends.[/quote]
I think you are very anxious to fit people into the boxes you've designed for them.  I have a ton of male friends. And when we want to spend time together, we go have coffee. Or lunch. Or dinner. Out in public.  Not in each other's houses when no one else is present. Why are you so  bothered by people's preferences? I'm not telling YOU how to conduct yourself.  I am simply explaining why I - a person wholly separate and different from you - would choose to meet up with SAHD and his kids at a playground or a park but not at his or my house when no one else is around. [/quote]

Can you please just answer my original question that I asked in the post before the one you quoted, then?  Like I said this is really foreign to me and I do not get it and I want to. What is the inappropriateness you feel around being IN A HOUSE with someone of the opposite gender? I gave three reasons that are about as far as I can imagine it: fear of rape, fear of temptation, or concern about appearances/misinterpretation by people who don't know the two of you. ???[/quote]
I'd answer it for you but I think you are committed to "not getting it". But let me try.   I feel that it is inappropriate for me, as a married woman, to solicit and impose on myself, without any actual need, the scenario of being in a private setting with a member of the opposite sex. My DH feels the same way - he wouldn't hang out with a woman in her house.  Coffee shop, sure.  House, no. That's our deal. You don't have to sign up for it. [/quote]

Yes, believe you me, I am FULLY AWARE that I don't have to agree with you. Thanks for the permission though.

You're still not answering my question. You are just saying the word "inappropriate" again and again. My question is WHAT IS INAPPROPRIATE? 
Are you concerned about being raped?
Are you concerned about having an affair?
Are you not concerned about either of those things, but are concerned that you might be judged by third parties?
Or is it something else I have not thought of?[/quote]
See, I knew you were committed to not getting it.

Try this, I'll put it in all caps:

IT FEELS WRONG. [/quote]

Thank you. It helps me understand where you are coming from that that's as specific as you can get.[/quote]
Actually, I was trying to simplify it for you since you persist you need more and more explanation. You say you want to understand, but really, all you want to do is argue. This is why I am not getting more specific since I know you'll just circle back with questioning every letter I type, and I find that tiresome. You're like my five-year old who keeps saying, "but WHYYYY?"[/quote]

Different people are different, PP.  5-year-olds (and adults) ask why a million times when the answer doesn't make sense to them. When it does, they stop.  I get you find it's inappropriate, I get you are uncomfortable, I get it makes you feel a way you don't want to feel.  You can assume negative intent on my part all you like and nothing I can say will change your mind. Since I am a WOHM/SAHD family, our paths will clearly never cross in any significant way, so it doesn't matter to me.  [/quote]

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