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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]My new goal is host as many play dates as it takes for my kids not to feel excluded. [/quote]

Look, realistically, what other option do you have except continuing to host the play dates?  You can't make other people invite your kids to their homes, regardless of whether their reasons are right, wrong, indifferent.  But you also can't ensure that your kids don't feel excluded.  My kid feels excluded to some degree because he is shy - he gets invited to some play dates, but isn't invited to as many as we host, probably because he isn't the first one other kids think of.  Dealing with others not reciprocating equally is, unfortunately, a part of life and growing up that kids must learn to find a way to manage.  [/quote]

So you think your child is not being included because people are uncomfortable with you.  Besides hosting playdates, the way for people to be comfortable with you is for them to get to know you, so be around....volunteer at school, be a room parent, volunteer to be one of the soccer coachs/cub scout leaders/etc.    Try to volunteer in situations where you will be working with other parents.  The more people see you acting a caring, involved dad, the more people will be comfortable with you.  You'll have more opportunities to chitchat with the parents and build bridges.   Also it is worth noting, that to be a cub scout leader/soccer coach, that means you've passed a basic background check too, so that's also another thing that indicates you are a stand up guy.  It also helps people to see/meet your wife too and see you guys parenting together.

Good luck!  I knew a SAHD that everyone was comfortable with.  He was a superfriendly guy and a easy person to talk to....and his wife was a popular pediatrician.  So there was already some common ground and trust already there.[/quote]

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