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[quote=Anonymous]I think this topic is so timely. I was raised by someone who was a 'career woman', in truth an abusive alcoholic who was better out of the house than in it- divorced my father and left my care to others. Random people, babysitters, housecleaners, eventually we moved in with my grandmother, who was my rock. She was supposedly a high earner, but failed to negotiate changing times and lost her job when her industry tanked. From then on, we had the worst combination: alone with an angry abusive woman and living in poverty. She eventually started making some money again, but after years of low pay, went on a spending spree. Now, years later, she is again destitute, and has a host of horrible mental health problems from her decades of drug and alcohol use. I want her nowhere near my children.  I think of what I "owe" her a lot. My best answer is that the best way I can raise my children, with the most loving, intact family, is the answer. I can't solve the problems she created for herself, but I can try to create a sustainable life for my children and break the cycle of dysfunction. I do think about the example I am setting to my children but I really don't know what else to do.  [/quote]

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