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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How did you identify and overcome the skills deficits and social deficits that other kids naturally learn through a more or less healthy home life? And do you practice remediation of the screwed up role modeling passed along to you?

Did you kids hang together? In my screwed up house the NPD set us against each other for his own benefit, to long term negative impact. Is it similar for you, or did you escape that.

Do your parents still anger you, or are you past it?

Thx, interesting AMA![/quote]I would be grateful if you could describe in more detail how the NPD set you against each other for his own benefit.  I have belatedly come to suspect this is what has happened in my family, but then again it could be completely wrong.  Thanks.
Interesting thread, OP.[/quote]

OP:  I can't speak for PP, but I can explain how my NPD father and my parents tried to set my siblings against each other and succeeded at times.  Here's an example: During the years when my mother was dragging me through the game show/trivia etc circuit, my parents kept me on a short leash. I got no pocket money, would have to argue for new clothes, and was not allowed to eat anywhere nice, not even to celebrate a win.  It turned out that they were telling my siblings that my siblings couldn't have the things they wanted because they were spending too much on me!  My older brother was into basketball and wanted a simple hoop set to attach to the wall and my mother said no to him, citing me. I had no idea about any of this.

Things came to a head when I was on a televised kids game show and won some nice prizes. My older brother kicked over a garbage can in the waiting room in a fit of rage at the first round and then ripped the pages out of an encyclopedia set I had won in the final round, shrieking that I was a brat. Years later, I found out how much resentment my siblings had towards me for that period of time. My siblings had no idea that I had not been living it up when my mom drove me to events and had in fact not gotten to keep any prizes or money. My parents wholesale made things up just to set the kids against each other.[/quote]

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