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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am practical and frugal and that would be too much for me. (The ring, regardless of cost). You need to get an idea of what she would like somehow. Even if I won something like that completely for free I don't think I would wear it.

Mine is a high quality round solitaire, about 1ct. I wouldn't want much bigger or flashier. The bigger stone doesn't mean you love her more. Knowing what she likes is more important. [/quote]

As I've already written, I know she loves this style. My sister and her best friend went out shopping. My sister is renewing he vows and went to look at rings. My girlfriend pointed out what she likes. She was specific on how her " perfect" ring would be Asscher cut, with either a solitaire or diamond band. He didn't say anything about carat size. She is somewhat frugal but still spends on clothes, makeup, etc. I know she will love it. I'm not sure she want something this big but that's what I want her to have. She is very practical but I know she will love it:).[/quote]

Here's the thing. If you are willing to blow $30k Ina ring, when your practical girls parents or never do well sister need money, will you happily pony up b/c you are setting expectations here that $30k is walking around money. [/quote]

This is a great point.[/quote]

this is an absurd point. why would your sister or in laws be entitled to anything or assume anything?[/quote]

They wouldn't be "entitled". [b]They'd be family, who might need help. Marriages, good ones, unite families. If my husband could put 30K on my hand but wouldn't help out a family member in dire straights, it'd be problematic.[/quote][/b]

I actually disagree with this.  Marriages unite a couple, not entire families. It's that line of thinking that leads people to believe ridiculous things like equating 1 for 1- $$$ engagement ring = helping family member in dire straits.

And for the record,  I would NEVER ask or expect my fiance/husband to  give MY parents money.[/quote]

Interesting. Here's the scenario. You get engaged. DH has worked hard for/inherited/won the lottery and brings substantial wealth to the marriage (enough so that 30K for an engagement ring is NBD). Years down the line, your dad/mom/sib develops melanoma. An aggressive, quickly metastasizing process. He/she needs chemo/rads. Medicare only covers partial. Remaining tx is exorbitant. You, as a couple, have the resources to cover the medical bills. But bc this is wealth your DH brought to the marriage, he says "nah". You're cool with this?[/quote]

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