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That was my post and I get it.  I think the key for me would have been staying in the room.  These are your inlaws (I think it is your DH's sister but I am not sure).  These are people who are going to be in your life for a long time.  
You need to do something next time you see them to help your kids to feel safe around him.  He is their uncle after all.  He may be strict but in his house he is allowed to be.

I get that you reacted with your gut.  In the heat of the moment who knows what each of us would have done.  We all have the benefit of time to think and distance from the situation.

As I mentioned it seems everyone was in the wrong but I think only BIL apologized.  I think you need to say something and I think DD does as well.
You can apologize by phone.  Something along the lines of "I am sorry I got so upset but when I saw that was happening my instincts kicked in." and then talk a bit about how you'd like to see things unfold if this happens again.  b/c it will happen again, you have young kids and kids are not always known for their great listening skills.  My DS can remember how to enchant a diamond sword in mine craft after not playing for a few weeks yet he can't remember to brush he teeth after breakfast something he does EVERY DAY.

Next time DD sees them she can say, sorry I stood on the couch last time I saw you.  I won't do it again.

Good luck OP.  Family dynamics are tough.  
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No, I'm sorry.  This response is too reasonable.  Doesn't belong on DCUM.   Let's go back to saying either (a) we allow our kids to jump on furniture, or (b) those people are Satan.

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