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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I sympathize with the difficulty of dealing with a dying boyfriend, but 48 is still pretty young to die. [/quote]
He died at 52, four years after we started dating. Still pretty young. But I still wouldn't have had to deal with this if he was in my age bracket. You cannot defy physicality. A 52-year old body is what it is. Not from the looks perspective, from the disease perspective.  There is simply more likelihood of sickness and death in much older men. [/quote]

Ummmm... if you marry a guy roughly your own age, you don't think he's going to get sick, get old and die? Or that when he does, you won't have to deal with it? Why not?

Why is it better to deal with a man getting old and dying when YOU are also old, rather than when you are young?

[quote=Anonymous]The second one was 50 and I was closer to 30. ... There were also, ahem, medical issues.  And I realized that if I stayed with him, I would be his nurse maid.   [/quote]

So let's say you had married the guy and that [b]you [/b]were 50 (not 30) and he was 50. Would you not have to be his nursemaid when you were both 65?

It certainly doesn't sound easier to be a nursemaid when you're 65 than when you're 40.[/quote]
It's not about "easier".  It's about the expectations at different stages of life.  At 28, I needed to be dating, or maybe getting married, looking forward to planning a family, settling down.  Not sitting in the cancer treatment sessions, not holding bedpans, not standing over his coffin. It's not the right place for the 28-year old. At 65, perhaps being a nursemaid is fitting.  Absolutely not at 28.

Of course if you marry someone your own age, EVENTUALLY he will get old.  But you'll have a good chunk of healthy, young life to live ahead of you.  You won't have to fast-forward to its conclusion.  And you won't have to spend time getting over death.  You are trying to make it sound like what's in between the start and the end of life doesn't matter, as long as every soul will taste sickness and death, it doesn't matter if it happens at 20 or at 80.  This is patently senseless. [/quote]

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