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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]While I'm sure that all of you spankers are 100% in control of your emotions and use other discipline methods in your home, that has not been true of the vast majority of people I have personally observed punishing their children by striking them. What I have seen, in public and a

mong the people I grew up around, ranged between frustrated parents with few parenting skills hitting a child on the hand, head or bottom because the child was whining/crying/not listening/other infraction unrelated to safety and parents saying things like "When we get home, you'll choose a belt" to children who had committed more serious infractions. In all cases, the public spanking or public threat of private spanking was not immediately followed by the family leaving the public situation. Mostly they just stick around at the BBQ or wherever and the child's behavior does not actually change.

So while I suppose I can understand what you guys are saying about calm, rational spanks and only doing it in very serious circumstances, that has not been my observation of how this technique is used.[/quote]

Where do you live that you see all these people spanking their kids?  Your story sounds incredulous to me.[/quote]

PP here. I'm not the OP, so sorry that you haven't convinced her. I grew up in the Midwest. The people I'm describing are families that we knew and socialized with when I was kid. Those kids have since gone on to use similar disciplinary techniques with their children, which I have observed pretty much every time I go home. I am also talking about a handful of incidents I've observed in this area: at Target, at the grocery store, etc.

I'm glad it sounds unbelievable to you. Fewer children experiencing those things, the better.[/quote]

PP, if you knew these people as children, and you know them now as families, then you can see that, while it's not the way you parent, it doesn't permanently harm the children. It's not the way I parent, either, but I don't think it causes deep psychological trauma.[/quote]

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