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Sure and by your logic your kid could show up naked and it's no one's business.   But we live on this planet.  [/quote]

See above: "Sarah, Larla's clothes are her business, your clothes are your business. She picks what she likes and her parents allow, you pick what you like within what we allow. If someone is breaking rules at school that's up to the school to sort out. You just worry about you."

(Good going, PP who posted that!)[/quote]

Okay. I see.  Your kid doesn't have to follow the dress code rules AND you get to dictate what everyone else thinks about that.   Nope.  I'd say "Huh, that sounds like it's against the rules and also shows really bad judgment because she's encouraging people to notice nothing about her other thN her butt.  Do you think your butt is what's important about you?  Me neither.   I hope Larla figures that out.  Don't make fun of her.  You never know what's going on in some people's lives that makes them make their choices.  But I'm glad you know better."  That's what real (sane) parents say. [/quote]

I'm the original poster of sarah/larla. My kid does have to follow rules. And if she doesn't, the school gets to deal with that, and then I will deal with that at home. What doesn't need to happen though, is anyone else's input.

Your attitude about clothing and what you would teach your daughter is odd to me, and it's the sort of attitude my DD and I tend to try to avoid because there seems to be a lot of cultural baggage and nonsense there, but you certainly have the right to teach your child whatever you wish.[/quote]

So you do tell your kid to follow the rules?  Then you agree with OP.  I do too, except I would equally note the boys doing the similar dumb thing.  "Cultural baggage". Sure, I guess it is.  Everything In A social compact is cultural baggage in a sense.  I don't think it requires body shaming to say "that's not a good idea because if you do that it is the only thing people will notice about you". aND "you are way too cool to be making that the thing people notice about you".   But I definitely think your way is weird, so fair enough you think mine is.  [/quote]

Well, I sort of agree with the OP. I agree that if there are rules they should be followed. I do not, however, agree with the dress code, with the way I have usually seen it enforced, or with the fact that even when my DD wears an outfit that is verifiable as within the dress code she has STILL experienced a school administrator and a few teachers (separate occasions over the past few years) attempt to claim her clothing was inappropriate... despite it carefully adhering to the school's published rules! That's not something I agree with.

I also do not agree with the attitude from some on this thread (not sure where you fall on this) that holds that it is somehow another student's or family's business if/whether/when a classmate gets into trouble for a violation of the rules, dress code or not, unless the violation directly impacted your student.[/quote]

Sounds to me like your daughter dresses like trash, is making people feel uncomfortable, and the school is trying to tell her that.  Sadly, you are one of those parents that don't care and they know it.  You are on their list of deadbeats.  [/quote]

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