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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]OP, humans are unable to love other people's kids as their own. Don't fool yourself[/b].

Not to say you should have kids, but your premise is flawed. Babysitting relatives' kids is quite different from experiencing parenthood.[/quote]

I feel this statement is offensive to people who adopt children, especially when the children are older! I don’t think adoptive parents feel as you have stated. I also know of people who end up with their nieces and nephews in tragic circumstances and certainly love those children an experience "parenthood". I think the OP is 100% right that spending a week w/ any children alone is an indicator of what life will be like as a parent when you speaking of the day to day freedoms. The work on the daily level is the same regardless if they are your own or not. The OP is not talking about if they would love or not love their kids or filling a missing void, she is talking about what lifestyle changes would have to be made and she is 100% correct. The things she brings to light do go away with young children and although some people are willing to trade those things, others are not. OP, I think you are making a great decision and I applaud you for making the right choice for you and your husband! No one should ever feel like they have to have children because that is what society thinks! You are being responsible and I agree that any childless couple should spend a week with young children and see what kind of works is involved.

~signed a parent [/quote]\\

um ... no offense taken by this adoptive parent. when you adopt a kid they ARE your own, stupid[/quote]

I took the statment to mean children you have given birth to.[/quote]

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