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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow PP. You made a lot of assumptions there! Actually you don't sounds like a very nice person yourself.

To clarify, I don't think that OP is making the right decision because she isn't [b]capable[/b] of raising children well, rather I think she's making the right decision because she's just not into having kids and having to make the lifestyle changes that often come with being a parent (less sleep, not having nice furniture, etc). For example, a child may be capable of growing up and becoming a physician but they shouldn't become one if they are not interested in medicine.

Communication and lack of sex is not dependent on whether or not someone is a parent imo, so those reasons are irrelevant. Some people are really into keeping their lifestyle a certain way and those people may not be cut out to be parents. No judgement there. It is what it is.[/quote]

I based my comments on how you judged and criticized OP in your own comments.  You put her down very insultingly based on her reasoning.  You called her decisions superficial and self-centered.

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Based on the above comment Op sounds pretty superficial and self centered. I would not recommend that she have children. You've made a good decision to stay childless, OP![/quote]

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Sorry but OP's focus on money, the tidiness of her house and having 'nice furniture' just seems superficial to me.

I don't think that all people who chose to be childless and superficial and self centered. On the contrary.... I actually applaud the voluntarily childless folks for having the strength to go against societal expectation and remain childless. They are doing everyone a favor by not having kids if they already know they will not be that into them. [b]A lot of people don't have what it takes to raise children and give them what they need (which is a lot), and I'm relieved when I hear that people who are like OP decide not to have kids.[/b][/quote]

How is this not saying that you thought OP was not capable of caring for kids?  You said she doesn't have what it takes to raise children and give them what they need.

As for her reasoning for why she thought she shouldn't have kids:
[quote=22:35]Honestly I think those are lame excuses. Plenty of couples who are parents have marriages where they communicate well and have good sex. Its kind of insulting that she assumes they don't based on her week long experiment. And in my opinion, many things that are worth doing are also exhausting, including having kids.[/quote]

You think she has lame excuses.  Plenty of couples who are parents can do so much better than OP can, that she's clearly an inferior type of person because she decided that she wasn't willing to make the sacrifices that having children would mean.  You've completely devalued her reasons for why she made her choice and you think that it was harsh that I called you miserable and mean-spirited?

You were mean and judgmental and when called on it, you're backtracking and trying to say that I was the one that was mean, not you.  Hokay.  Right.
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