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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This has turned into something out of The Onion: "Study Shows You Are Living Your Life All Wrong."

This.  I know a lot of moms who work--mostly by choice, not because they have to--and I've never once heard any one of them say anything nasty about someone else's choice to stay home (other than to say that it's just not for them).  On the other hand, I see a TON of stay at home moms (including multiple times on this thread) imply that they love their kid more than I do, or are more willing to "sacrifice" or that I'm not raising my own kid, or that they are somehow just doing a better job at this mom thing than I am.  Your choice to stay at home does not make you a better mom.  It just doesn't.[/quote]

Their forthrightness does not come out of a place of guilt, it comes out of deep love and concern for the children, because [b]they could not imagine being apart like that from their kids and leaving them with people who might not share the deep bond that they have developed with their kids[/b], which grows rich with time.[/quote]

PP here. I don't think it comes from a place of guilt at all. I think it comes from a place of unjustified smugness, largely fueled by insecurity. [/quote]

Of course these women are smug. They have love and concern for the children--not just their own, but the poor kids of those working mothers, who apparently don't love them enough to form deep bonds with them.

Reading that post is giving me diabetes. [/quote]

I may be a lot of things but smug and insecure I ain't. Loving, concerned, caring, yes. I don't know what SAHMs you know but they don't live in my zip code.[/quote]

Let's just parse the above, shall we? PP says that someone who is loving and concerned about children could not even imagine being apart from their kids. The concept is so contrary to how loving mothers think, that a caring mother can't even [i]conceive[/i] of it. Therefore, someone who CAN imagine it--and DO it--must not be loving and caring. Right?

Just don't blame WOHMs for fueling the mommy wars. [/quote]

I'm just smiling and cringing, trying to imagine the mommy who can't even fathom being away from her child. I feel sorry for her future son or daughter in law.[/quote]

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