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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think at the very least, you need to get a lock on your bedroom door & keep a safe in there, that the kids & mom don't have access to at all when you're not there.

More ideally, I would have your husband be honest and direct with his ex-wife, that due to prior behavior and things going missing, it's just not feasible to continue unsupervised access to the home. Then, talk to the kids and explain that they need to pack thoroughly and coming back to get things won't be an option - [b]what they forget, they will do without. [/b]Changes the locks, install a security system, and have it running when the kids aren't supposed to be in your home. Let the alarm go off on them, let them call you in a panic. It won't happen again.

I would avoid lawyers and all that, given that it would escalate unnecessarily. [/quote]

That is extremely unreasonable and hard on the kids.  Try living in two houses-- I bet you'll forget things sometimes.  And it's not just forgetting, it's unanticipated needs.  What if something in their schedule changes due to circumstances out of their control?  Like what if their soccer game is rescheduled due to weather, so they need their cleats unexpectedly.  You are essentially banning the kids from their own house.  They will resent all their parents and stepmother for letting it come to this, but especially the stepmother for forcing the issue, and as PPs have said, it will likely push them closer to their mother.  [/quote]

If my stepmother treated me this way, I'd never speak to her again.[/quote]

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