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I tell my husband what I need all the time. From my conversations with my girlfriends, it sounds like they do too. I need a break once in a while. I need some alone time. I need my husband to do his fair share around the house, or at least not leave his dishes all over the table, socks next to the hamper, towel on the floor, toilet paper roll empty, etc. I'd like to have him ask how my day was once in a while, or show any interest in me or what I do. But none of these happen no matter how often I ask, and then he's mystified that I don't want to have sex later. It's because I've spent all day catering to everyone else's needs and preferences without getting any of mine met, so at bedtime I'm not interested in it once again being all about someone else's needs. I just want to rest and finally take care of myself by having a little downtime. But if I ever say that directly, I'm accused of using sex as a weapon. Which it's not at all, it's not like I'd like to have sex but instead am going to withhold it to get back at him. I'm just literally not even remotely interested most days, and it feels like one more chore on my list and I am spent.[/quote]

My wife feels spent and uninterested in sex even when I do all those things. One of the things is that sex is simply not a priority for her. She's not malicious or trying to hurt my feelings or anything. It just doesn't occur to her unless I bring it up. And, because it's not a priority, if I take the load off by taking care of a lot of the necessities, it's her nature to increase her load by taking on a bunch of discretionary activities. So, I could kill myself with effort, and it wouldn't result in so much free time for her that she felt relaxed and horny. So, I respect your situation, but I think there are more than a few guys who feel like their wife can't be relied upon to make sex a priority no matter how much effort they put into what their wives see as priorities. [/quote]

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