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[quote=Anonymous]Hi all.  OP here.  I last checked in consistently around page 8 a couple of days ago.  Said that I'm not going to check this thread anymore or DCUM in general for that matter.  As it seriously sucks a lot of time and takes me away from other things but it's hard to resist.

But I did want to post to let you know that you all are right.

When talking to my wife it was quickly apparent that she has serious resentment on her side of things.

I know that I've been a horrible person and hope to become a better one.  I kind of know the root of the issues.  Treating my wife badly was based on my insecurities and just turned me into a negative person.  The thing with the kids is a little bit more complicated because I want what's best for my kids.  But I know I have to change the way I do things and work better with her.

And you all are right where my bad attitude and mentality has affected other aspects of my life and I hope to improve on that as well.

Anyways I hope this isn't just a period of me overcompensating or if it is that if I swing back the other way, it won't be reverting to how I was before.  Maybe somewhere in between if it does happen.  But I guess the real test will be when we hit a bump in the road next.

Some comments that I was going to add before but decided not to post anymore:

-I get the gym thing.  Guys may workout differently than most girls and is why I don't really give my opinions in the health/fitness section here.  But there's really no substitute for the gym.  I've tried various different workouts and while they're hard, are not the same.  It comes down to sacrifices and I had to make some changes and my body and conditioning has changed for the worst in ways I never thought possible.  Even my wife has pointed that out in the last several years.  To be fair, I'm getting old too.  But it's about priorities and while the gym used to be high on my priority list, my kids are higher.

-As for wanting kids.  That was one of my issues.  Where everything was on schedule for my wife.  Where she decided when to have kids because it was the right time but then went back to focusing on work/career and thinking that it was okay to hand off the kid every chance possible.  (and we already went through this so let's not go through this again)

Anyways thanks again for helping me see the light and hopefully changed me for the better.  Especially the two posts a couple of days ago.  I think one time was at 18:00 and the other one shortly afterwards maybe on Friday or Saturday night.  Like I said, I didn't really understand or think about it until reading those two posts.
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