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[quote=Anonymous]I posted before with the point that if a spouse had done this it would be treated more as a family situation to deal with and less as the fault of one particular person who has to pay somehow to make it up to the family. Knowing more I think it's even more true. Anyone can make a mistake

I actually think this is a fabulous chance to teach DS about money management and household budgeting. OP could loop DS in on the fixing of the problem way more than she otherwise would. Make clear she's not doing so as punishment but as lesson for what consequences are like in the real world. Since he feels bad about it, he presumably wants to do something to make it up, so why go punishment when you could go learning experience/give DS a chance to grow? Sit down with the family budget and show him what $7K looks like to his family. How it means that vacation and camp is now a stretch, and that if you don't want to forgo such luxuries it means you have to make sacrifices in everyday living. Have him help you come up with options. e.g. cancel the housecleaning service for a few months to get $1000 back, have him do the cleaning in that time, but also make sure he knows that even all that cleaning work he did only got the family a small part of the way to making up the damage. [/quote]

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