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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP. I honestly don't get the hatred towards OW. Shit happens. Husbands fall out of love and leave. That's life. Whatever negative feelings you harbor will only hurt you. I guess it's okay to believe in karma if that helps you get through the day, but it rarely works in real life. (Or maybe American way of looking at karma is way out of wack.)

Anyway, my advice to you: don't be hating. Move on and be happy. Doing well is the best revenge ;-)[/quote]

As a cheated-on wife, I think the above is appropriate for a couple years out from the affair.  But for someone a couple months out from having her life completely upended?  I don't think an emotionally healthy person has a (in my case) ten year relationship end due to cheating and just turns on a dime and says "shit happens." I'm working through my sadness, thinking a lot about who I have been and who I want to be in a relationship, and also feeling angry.  Those are all feelings that are very appropriate to the situation.  Move on is good advice for the long term, but in the short term you need to engage with the pain and anger in order to become a stronger/better/more emotionally mature person.[/quote]

No doubt you may have those feelings. But they are misdirected at the OW. No one made a commitment to OW. Blame any issue with you relationship with DH on you and your DH.

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