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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People who work long hours with SAHM spouses are insane. They really are.

Do not work long hours (50+) for money unless you truly find the work personally fulfilling. It's NOT worth it and you WILL regret it in the end when your money is taken from you anyway.

You wanna talk about "a life lost"? How about those surgeons who spend the prime of their lives studying, followed by spending their middle age working long stressful hours,  not seeing their kids for days at a time, only to get taken to the cleaners by their SAHM who thinks she "sacrificed" her life for him. BS, he is the one who made the sacrifices. But, he is the bad guy, right?

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In the case of my mother, who was a very senior executive at the end of her career, in a field which took her all over the world, this was not the case.  My mother loved all of her children, but she figuratively lived for her work and her professional accomplishments.  Professional ambition was the oxygen she breathed, and she was lucky to marry a man in that era (the 1970s) who was willing to travel the world with her, support her professional pursuits, and stay home to raise us kids.  For my mother, at least, the long hours at work, the weeks away on travel, the time away from us her children, were totally worth it because they were done in pursuit of her goals and not simply to support the family.  There are many professionally ambitious people for whom the time away from home and family is time well spent, as it is time necessary to fulfill a professional ambition.[/quote]

It sounds like your mother found the work to be personally fulfilling. That's fine. She's the target of my warning.

Just don't work long hours at a job you hate for money/status. I know that's common sense, but a lot of "professional" types do it anyway, and they often regret it.

IMO, the ideal marriage is two people maintaining a healthy work/life balance and a modest lifestyle.[/quote]

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