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You don't deserve to have your "emotional needs" respected because you don't have respect for your partner. Being required to have sex when you don't want to because the other partner is having an emotional meltdown about it and is throwing a temper tantrum isn't respectful of your low drive partner's needs.

If you can't come to compromise, then you are better off divorced and so is your partner.

As for me, I've been married 23 years in a marriage that ended up with very mismatched sex drives after the kids got here. We compromised and found a way to keep it together, with everyone putting in an effort to make it work. [/quote]

Compromise means the low drive partner making effort to have sex more frequently while the high drive partner accepts less frequent encounters.

Your other posts indicate you see "compromise" as the high drive partner accepting the status quo[/quote]

The thing that low drive spouses don't seem to fully grasp is that it's not just about quantity, it's about quality. My H can perform physically, but I can tell he's not into it.  I can give myself physical pleasure (in less time, to boot!).  I want a partner who desires me and not just the sex. Tries new things. Enjoys the whole experience. That qualitative difference is hard to compromise on when one person just wants it to be over so he can watch TV or go to sleep.[/quote]

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