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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - I think part of the issue is expectations about marriage - mine, my husband's, and a lot of yours -PPs.  I'm not guided by strict religious or cultural traditions, nor is my husband.  If we were strictly Catholic, e.g., we'd have those "rules" to guide us.  If we believed that marriage was about pro-creation, then we'd likely have gotten married much younger, and started a family far sooner.

What I've realized about myself, is that I married partially for companionship, but a large part of marrying for me was also about having a family - children - not just one.

That's why family size is so integral to my "relationship" to my husband.  Now if my husband were somehow unable to reproduce a second time, I wouldn't divorce him for that.  But his stance reflects a value different than mine of what our marriage is about.

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NP here. Yes, OP, but while you're wallowing in the "I do it my way" routine please remember that you have ALREADY brought a child into the world with this man. That little human that you created (and you obviously think you are a blue ribbon mom at raising, because hey, you're up for doing it again) NEEDS A FATHER. It's not just about YOU and your baby eyes anymore.  [/quote]

OP here - how many children do you have, and how did you and your spouse/partner decide on how many to have?  Are you still together?  [/quote]

Not that it really matters because the specific circumstances don't change the underlying moral principles involved, but...  I have two. DH and I didn't "decide," exactly, because as in many cases fate decided for us. Of course we are still together. We made vows to each other and committed to raise the child(ren) we were blessed with having.[/quote]

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