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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]FSO here.  You are making me cringe.  I hope you are a troll and not a real trailing spouse.  Look, Warsaw is great.  Your husband is doing the best he can to get jobs that will work for your family.  If he didn't get a handshake until - what did you say, third round - then he's not having an easy time.  Stop with the all caps and the threats and the demands, and [b]sit down and talk with your husband about how you two can make this worth.     [/b]

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I have been talking to my DH for 17 years, and all the time the "needs of the service" seem to trump my needs.  I want to work, have a professional job, use my education.  I don't want to be relegated to low paid Embassy jobs like the CLO. I am a professional woman, and I do not want to continually start over again and again.  If I can't work, then at least I want to be at a post where I will be comfortable.  My DH bid on two Washington jobs, one Germany and Poland as his top.  He filled out the rest with basically fill space.  He was given Poland, which I already told him ahead of time that I will not go there.  He told me today that he took into consideration all of the family's needs, including mine, in putting the list together.  I don't feel that way.  I feel he could have a bit more backbone and do what his colleagues to who fight and argue for jobs based on what their spouses and kids needs.  I know one of his colleague got Paris b/c her kid has "asthma" and another is staying in Washington because his kid has "ADHD."  [b]Well, maybe I should get a mental health diagnosis that keeps us here.  My mental health issue is tired of the Foreign Service.[/b]  [/quote]

No, your mental health diagnosis is that you are self-absorbed person who feels that life needs to be handed to you on a platter. Be grateful for what you have - a lot of people don't get anything close to what you have. When you dismiss Warsaw because you want Paris, there is something wrong with you priorities.[/quote]

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