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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have no issue with the OP's husband wanting details. What I have a problem with is him demanding that she then do all those things with him, or no chance of reconciliation. To me, that is painfully close to the idea that a wife must do anything sexually that her husband requires, whether she wants to or not. Obviously they will need at some point to resume intimacy, but recreating the sexual acts she did with Gym Guy is too creepy and coercive for me to consider it a rational or acceptable requirement.

Details, yes. Requirement to perform those acts or else, no.[/quote]

So, don't you see that her refusal to do those acts with him makes it worse?

He's still not worthy to her, eh?  Not good enough to get xxx...
Yeah, that's a good way to get him back.  
But as we all know, she just wants things the way they were.  Where she didn't have to give him xxx.

That's saved for OM.
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I am perfectly ok with any woman, no matter what she's done, to refuse to perform sexual acts when they're demanded of her. I think it's creepy that her husband wants to recreate her affair.

If the only way to get him back is to allow him to humiliate her sexually (and I cannot understand how this could be anything but that), she's better off without him.

I don't condone what she did, but agree with the poster up thread who is fairly disturbed by the woman hate on this thread. I think the OP is immature and deluding herself if she thinks she can get her old life back. I disagree that she is like a rapist, as one poster suggested.The only person in this situation who sounds like a rapist, or like a person with potential to be a rapist, is the husband demanding total sexual control. [/quote]

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