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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Adoptive mom here -- I have to laugh at the PP who suggested an adopted child would be easier b/c she would sleep train, etc.

We adopted our daughter at about a year old. I work full time outside the home, but for her first year I worked reduced hours to minimize her time in day care. We coslept b/c I'm fairly confident she coslept with her foster family (overseas), and I felt sleep training at that point would've compromised her attachment with us. Literally every day, until she was about 4, our parenting decisions were influenced by the fact that we missed out on her first year and needed to build attachment with a toddler.

Now we're contemplating having a second child, through donor egg IVF, and all I can think it how much less stressful it will be with a child I carry -- we'll be able to sleep train if we want without worrying about attachment, our second child (if we have one) will be less likely to have severe separation anxiety, etc.

That said? I love my daughter to pieces, and every day I am so happy that we get to raise her. She is just a great kid. I regret that she came into this world in such a situation that she needed to be adopted, but I don't think I could ever regret adopting her & being her mom.[/quote]This is now
How will you feel after your 2nd child is born?
I ask because I know of a boy whose adoptive parents divorced and the man was able to have children with the new wife that were his own. So therefore he never had contact with that 'parent' after that[/quote]

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