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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Amen to 19:36.  Another adoptive mom here.  Letting kids be shuttled in and out of foster care on the hope and the prayer that the dysfunctional bio-family "gets it together" does nothing but create more problems for the kids---and if they are shuttled long enough---they are no longer viable candidates for adoption because their attachment and behavior issues are so ingrained that few adoptive parents will take them on.  Better to have the kids be adopted at birth.  My kids would have been much, much better off had that happened.  Instead, because of the early neglect and subsequent abandonment ---it is much harder for them to heal.  They are just starting to understand that given the fact that their bio-mom was a teenager and desperately poor---with no solid family support---there was no way she could have realistically raised them.

Much better for them to have been adopted as infants and then told that their bio-mom loved them enough to find them a family that could care for them, instead of neglecting them to the point they were removed from her.  Not all biological families should be reunited.[/quote]

You clearly have zero understanding of how kids wind up on foster care. Good try though. [/quote]

NO clearly you have zero understanding.

The PP is spot on.[/quote]

I'm an LCSW who works in the child welfare system. Is it your understanding that the majority (or even 20%) of children of single parents, teen parents or low income parents end up in foster care? I can tell you that is not the case. At all. Parents who abuse drugs, without seeking treatment, are more likely to have children enter the foster care system. I will tell you that, from a clinical standpoint, children of adoption (even ones raised in great homes) have unique issues. Family preservation should be the standard.[/quote]

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