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OP, I wonder if this isn't so much about money as you being resentful that your husband took a more demanding job while you were pregnant, while you've had to make career sacrifices to become a parent? 
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I think you've oversimplified the situation.  One critical piece of information that went into the decision-making process was the timing.  First they as a couple made the decision that the husband/father could take the new lateral position that he loves.  The consequence of changing jobs was that he had no leave and was not eligible for FMLA.  When the wife/mother's new opportunity came up, he had already changed jobs and they no longer really had the option for her to take this "bump up" job because they as a couple could not make the sacrifices necessary to make it work based on the husband's change of employment.  The two situations were not equal.  Had they had both opportunitites at the same time or the wife's opportunity came up before the husband's then they would have been able to consider her change of jobs as long as he could take FMLA leave to care for their new child.  But that wasn't an option.  So she didn't make sacrifices to become a parent, she made sacrifices because of two prior decisions they made as a couple.  They were already pregnant and the father had already changed jobs before her opportunity came up and so circumstantially she couldn't accept it.  The timing of the various opportunities made the decisions for them on her new job offer.

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