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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a second grader and a kindergartner. In my experience, about 80% of the time the kids who are held back are held back to give them an edge. I live in an affluent community and so these parents can afford an extra year of preschool and believe that their child will be a “leader” because he (mostly he but sometimes she) will be the oldest. I don’t have a problem with the other 20% who have legitimate reasons to hold back . But when were deciding whether or not to send my summer boy, another mother actually said to me “Don’t you want him to be a leader? You should hold him back.” She did not ask me whether or not he was actually ready. This is the problem with redshirting![/quote]
+1000. What she really means is won't it be easier for my little bully? since she is bigger and older?[/quote]

You all assume that if a boy is held back, they all become bullies? The biggest bully in my DC 6th grade class is a girl. Queen bee to the max. The boys that seem to have the most trouble are ones who academically can't keep up and  or are smaller and feel they can't keep up athletically. Lots of acting out, class clown stuff. No idea if they are older or younger. By the time kids reach HS it is pretty hard to tell who is older or younger.The best athletes are not always the oldest ones. Good athletes are good athletes.

I am having a hard time understanding the anger people have for this. SO what if some kid may have an advantage over yours. Welcome to the real world. Things aren't perfect and you really have no clue if that older kid will have any advantage over yours till HS when abilities really start to come through.[/quote]

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