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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]And 99.9% of the time it can be handled without school involvement. Sorry, but I don't think the majority of people want their taxes spent on working out little disagreements like this.[/quote]

A PP here who earlier advocated getting the teacher to do fact finding.

I understand what you are saying, but in this particular context, the school should absolutely be the lead dog.  If I were OP, I could not care less whether people wanted their taxes spent on this. It is part of the administrator's job to manage these types of issues in the school building.

This was a parent volunteer at the school who "confronted" a student on the school playground during school hours about an incident that happened in the school cafeteria. The school absolutely would be the appropriate party to address this with the parent volunteer.[/quote]

Why are people so worried about having one adult parent talk to another adult parent?  Why the insistence to go all official and legal with this very minor issue?  Good Lord, I dread getting my kids through school if this is the parent mentality.  [/quote]

Well, I am certainly not "worried" about talking to another parent.  I have raised 4 kids and I have done it plenty.  It depends on what you want to achieve.  If you want to address your personal grievance with this woman, then talk to her one on one.  If you want the school to be aware that someone that it allows to volunteer is stepping out of bounds, then tell the school so that the admin can prevent this type of incident in the future.  MOST school admins would prefer to at least be informed on the incident. So whereas you are happy to just address your DC's incident, some of us would rather the school address the issue globally.  So I would go official and legal in this case, because the other parent used her "official and legal" access to confront my kid on the school playground.  She does it at the bus stop or the local park, then I handle it with her myself!

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But I don't think you have to approach this with an attitude of "airing your personal grievances."  Simply saying hey, my DD mentioned that you spoke to her about XYZ.  I wanted to touch base with you about it to hear your side and to let you know that I'd be grateful if you'd talk to me first next time" is not confrontational, but it is direct and it is a way to take charge and model the kind of behavior I would think we'd like to see in our kids.  I.e. knowing how to stand up for yourself in a direct yet polite way.  [/quote]

I am the PP with the 4 kids (now teens) and what I have found through trial and error is that the parent (if this story is true) will NOT be receptive to your direct politeness about a school playground incident.  Besides that, I am not always concerned with behavior modeling but I admit that I am old and tired.  LOL![/quote]

I hear you.  I guess I just think that if the parent isn't receptive to an adult conversation, then THAT tells me I may have to get the school involved.  I guess by the time I get to the same place maybe I'll feel the same way.  Particularly if I have to deal with this level of drama on a regular basis.  Please tell me this isn't that common![/quote]

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