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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, just send the money and be glad you aren't dealing with this.  This is the easiest decision ever.  [/quote]

Yeah, I know.  But as I just texted a sibling, in the past I sent the money to reduce my sister's burden.  Now it would be to reduce her guilt.  So it's really not the same thing.  But yeah, I know.  Just suck it up and keep sending the money.[/quote]

The money is to reduce your guilt for not lifting a finger other than offering up unwanted advice about how to do it better.[/quote]

X100000[/quote]

Sorry, but nope.  I feel no guilt and never will.  And if you weren't so judgmental and actually read my posts with an open mind you'd know that. [/quote]

Oh get real. You need to be honest with yourself. You’re paying a convenience fee
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I’m the person that suggested you move home if you don’t want to pay. Because what you’re doing is essentially providing cash so you don’t have to participate in care. You might not like that framing, but it’s accurate.

If you wanted to do more than send money, you would arrange to be there. No matter what your situation was. [/quote]

It's not accurate because it assumes there's an obligation or a perceived obligation whereas in my case there is neither.  [/quote]

So why are you doing it? [/quote]

I've been taking the path of least resistance.  I certainly don't want hard feelings or to start a fight with a sister who I was very close with growing up but who I don't see very often these days.

Basically this is the deal:  my spouse and I, early retired, have professional degrees and our siblings obviously know where we worked and what we did and they assume, rightly, that we have more money than them.  It's just a matter of degree -- every one of them is fine or better and no one is hurting but we are clearly the best off financially and it wouldn't even be possible to hide it.  So the expectation was that we would contribute the most.  [/quote]

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