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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I don't think it's about being a SAHM. It's about you appearing to have no ambition. 
To declare this intention early on in a relationship is a turn-off. Imagine dating someone who can only speak of the day they retire and where they want to convalesce.

I say this as a former SAHM. I brought a lot of value to the role. DH was barely involved with the children in the early years and admitted to himself that he wanted me to be the main parent. I also managed the full gut of the cheap real estate purchased to make it a family home (and increase value exponentially). I did plumbing, electrical, carpentry and created an e-commerce site before the kids entered K. Once that happened, I got a part-time job. Even as a currently full-time working mom, I took apart the the 20 year old washing machine today, on my "free"time weekend to investigate why the motor won't move (old brushes, easy $15 replacement).
I also tutored my kids for the SHSAT and SATs. DH credits me solely for their college outcome. Working was actually far more relaxing than being a SAHM and manager of all household and personal issues. I brought more value than I would have as a FT WOHM during those years.
If you possess these kinds of attributes, I am sure the SAHM discussion would be palatable as it is essentially a value proposition.[/quote]

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