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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op - my first preference over a basis or a Trevor would be a bronxville/ Scarsdale/ rye etc. Def open to some of the publics mentioned here also. Basis is a joke, I feel, and also I could have sent him there years ago and saved money if I thought it was up to anything

The standout thing to me is their list is incoherent. Trevor/ LREI, Dwight and basis have only in common that they are relatively easy to get into. The same student who thrives at lrei is not the same student who thrives at basis. I feel like we are just saying it needs to be an easy get for him bc he’s an undesirable student, rather than they had a thoughtful assessment of his profile that we’ve all been discussing for some time. As for the ISEE yes he has taken practice ISEEs and had quite varying results with the first one in high 8s and then when he took it again more variation.

I guess my expectation was that they’d suggest a couple ‘stretches’ eg a fieldston, a packer etc.. maybe a Buckley. And then some mid range - I wouldn’t have been surprised to see LREI in there. But it feels like we are just aiming for the lowest rung without us being prepped for that outcome along the way [/quote]

Buckley is a K-8 and Packer has gotten very competitive.

I’m not sure moving to the burbs is your solution. Have you thought about the lifestyle adjustment and the social impact to your kids. The teen years are hard. I wouldn’t make it worse by forcing an unnecessary move where the kids will likely have less freedom and social outlets. Also, some of those Westchester schools can be real pressure cookers and difficult to navigate socially. I would not make the move just for the schools. Have you asked your kid about the type of school they would like to attend?[/quote]

Totally agree. I grew up in a fairly popular NYC suburb and still have lots of friends in suburbia, including some who moved out of the city. These kids were all in the sandbox together, played youth sports together, parents went to elementary school plays together. It is a very different lifestyle. The few kids I know who succeeded in moving out of the city later in their academic career were those with a hook - usually great athletes so they could make friends through sports. To just show up for HS when you know no one and don't have an easy path to making friends would be incredible hard. Plus just the different lifestyle of needing parents to take you everywhere for a few years until you can drive, etc. And it is a huge change for the parents having to commute - if both parents work in Manhattan and have to generally be in the office, commuting stinks and you will not be around to take your kid places after school.

And as others have noted, the best schools are not easy and are not low key. If moving to the burbs, unless you have a true academic superstar, I would not be aiming for Bronxville, Scarsdale, Millburn, etc. I would go to a school that is really good but slightly more low key. But then again, as noted above, I wouldn't do it to begin with unless there are other reasons for the move.[/quote]

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