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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A HUGE number of ADHD marriages fail when the ADHD person refuses to medicate.  I've been on SSRIs to cope lately and while they work, the joint pain is horrendous and I am losing quality of life. I cut back and today didn't take one.

Sure enough, today I get home from running errands and the UPS guy is blocking the driveway and I gotta go to the bathroom something fierce, but figure I can wait a few moments. Thirty seconds later, my phone rings and it's my husband all flustered because the package coming from Canada has postage due. So pay it I say, I'm in the cul-de-sac and the driveway is blocked. Start getting hemming and hawing and I lose my shit and hang up, because once again it's on me to figure this out. I have a bad hip and the driveway is long and I start hobbling up it, still losing it and still having to go to the bathroom - a bad hip/long driveway/and having to pee is not a good combo for success. The UPS guy is apologizing to me and I'm telling him it's not his fault that my husband can't handle this. I go in, get the checkbook (they don't take a card, not even a debit) and write the check to UPS myself. My husband's response to me when I ask him why he couldn't handle this? "F-you". For those wondering, I did make it to the bathroom - LOL.

Bottom line - ADHD is well-hidden until it's not. I also just found out we lost our vision and dental insurance because he didn't pay the bill since January. Thank GOD I manage the main health care bill. He 'forgot' to leave a method of payment. What CAN he remember? What time all his various bike groups have rides, what gear he needs, where they are going, etc. If it doesn't serve him, he doesn't get it done.

OP, I feel your pain.[/quote]

This is our husband with the untreated ADHD?

And he can’t handle a delivery man without calling you or being stupid?  Are you sure he’s just not lazy and always messing up so now more lazy and Do-Nothing? [/quote]

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