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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Today men want & need women more than women want & need men.  Thus women are choosier.  [/quote]

I think both women AND men need each other less nowadays. 125 years ago a person might need to make their own clothes, make their own bread from scratch, wash their clothes by hand. Plus work shifts were often longer and involved more manual labor. Imagine working a 12 hour manual labor job and when you get home you have to wash your clothes by hand, start fiddling with yeast if you want bread, need to go to a pump to get water, etc. Literally impossible. Most single males would live in homes that included a room AND board for that very reason.

Nowadays, there are takeout options, meal-prep services ready made bread and other goods. A washing machine and dryer makes cleaning clothes a snap. Vacuum cleaners make tidying up a lot easier. It's feasible for a single guy to live alone and get by. I know because I was a single guy for 5 years when I was in my 30s and got along fine.

[b]The strongest evidence that men don't "need" women the way they used to is men's refusal to meet many of the standards set by modern women. If the men really needed women, they would take the steps necessary for their survival and meet women's standards. The fact that many don't just shows the men don't really need women.

Sure some men will say they want a woman who they expect to cook and clean and be sexy while they sit around playing video games. But this "want" or "need" should be given as much credence as me saying I want breakfast in bed everyday[/b]. [/quote]

Good point.[/quote]

This just tells me that [b]most men are largely asexual[/b]. Men particular post 40 yo have performance issues. They know they can't perform and not interested as much in women anymore. Why bother being on diet, taking care of yourself, being a good partner? Its way easier just to live alone

It's not because of easily available sex. These men are NOT getting a lot of free sex on the apps. The men who are dating actively on OLD at least can offer good looks and performance.

So yes, when I see a well groomed and well spoken man it tells me he still cares about being attractive to others. [/quote]

I don't think asexual is the right term. Just like many women who stop dating because (fill in the blank: men are too cheap, broke, don't clean, etc.) are not "asexual." These women just don't think the juice is worth the squeeze. Likewise, the men who can't be bothered to meet women's standards aren't necessarily asexual. They just don't think the juice is worth the squeeze as shown by their actions.[/quote]

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