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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My boyfriend’s 15yo hit my 4yo nephew. He was annoying her and she lightly smacked his arm. It wasn’t hard, didn’t cause injury, but he cried.

My SIL (brothers wife) immediately yelled at my boyfriend, called him a lazy dad, and my boyfriend yelled back at her, said she was dramatic and couldn’t control her kid, they were going on back and fourth for a couple minutes. After we left, he took his daughter to dinner, went shopping, bought her dessert and a new watch.

I guess everyone was reacting in the moment, but I’m still trying to process whether this was handled well and what would have been more appropriate. How would you have handled it? Did they overact?[/quote]

I think you already know this OP, but as a reminder, there are people in the world where this sort of thing never happens in their families. They have thoughts of wanting to lightly smack the arm of a four year old when that four year old is annoying them--but they catch themselves before they act on that thought because they know it would overwhelm/terrify/harm the child. And most people are not comfortable harming children--in any way.

Come on, OP, you really, really can do better than this guy.  You know this...I'm speaking to the parts of you that already knows this but are stunned into frozen compliance and cognitive dissonance...can you hear those parts?  I think you do, otherwise you would not be posting here for feedback.

Trust your instincts, OP.[/quote]
Well said. [/quote]

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