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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a late 40s woman. I will never remarry. Hard no. I don’t think it’s common at all for people to change their minds.[/quote]

But do you date? Have you found someone “prefect in every way?”

Once you do find someone perfect and date for a couple years, then what?

They ask what you are thinking after a couple amazing years? 
You tell them marriage is not for you. But this and that. You have your guards up. 
Then they reciprocate that. 
The closeness disappears.
You break up. [/quote]

Sometimes I date. If I date someone for a few years, why does anything have to change? You have your place. I have mine. We see each other when we want. Why is this hard to understand? No ONE needs (or should) get married past 40. It is completely unnecessary. And too legally complicated.[/quote]

Because OP says they are each other's "person". I guess we don't really know what OP meant by that, but some level of bond and attachment.

What is OP's plan for life with a casual girlfriend forever? Casual dating relationships are all well and good, but when the time comes to do some serious caregiving and get each other through an illness or a surgery, it's not necessarily something you can expect from someone you're deliberately keeping at arm's length. Is OP fine with his girlfriend declining to do that, and also fine with letting her cope on her own if she's having a serious issue?[/quote]

You don’t need to be married to take care of someone. Most men will leave their wives if there is a serious illness. You are naive if you think marriage has anything to do with this scenario. It doesn’t. [/quote]

I'm asking what OP is expecting and whether it is reasonable. Some men will leave, others won't, but the advantage of marriage is that if you're left by the wealthier person you come out of it with some assets. [/quote]

So just be honest with them and say you are in it for the money - even if you are the one leaving when you change your mind as you have demonstrated a propensity to do - and not for LoVe or whatever lie you are telling everyone.[/quote]

Yes, let’s  not pretend to be romantic fools: life in general requires resources. Men typically date and remarry  younger women  which results in sticking your old age care to younger wife . Even if you don’t require care, the woman would be dealing with limited personal freedom to travel, will be your secretary and social organizer; dealing with his kids and aging parents. Most men are incredibly boring in old age and just want quiet and peace. I could see why a glamorous GF of a billionaire wouldn’t need marriage. They can provide security  without marriage.  But no woman would invest her time  with an average Joe who just “wants to date”. This relationship  “everything separate” would end when  very first life storm hits them or they just start having differences how to spend retirement 
Marriage can be beneficial to both parties of modest incomes as this is effectively caretaking contract. People can sign prenup to outline their “investments”.

I don’t see why OPs GF would even want to marry him as she has a child out of nest and he has 2 kids at home. Bit I’m high NW myself . Maybe she thinks they could both benefit from a joint household. [/quote]

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