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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am so sorry, OP.  This sounds awful for your daughter and is so hard as a parent to feel kid's stress and unhappiness.

The kids we knew who were unhappy as freshman all figured it out by their second semester.  And it sounds like your daughter has done absolutely everything right, but the school culture is not meshing.  It sounds like a highly rejective culture.

There are SO MANY colleges where you don't have to apply to join clubs and Greek scene is non-existent.  Those schools will have an easy entree into social life, even as a sophomore.

Your daughter should start researching which schools have the type of social life she wants.  I have kids at different SLACs and neither school has Greek life and all clubs are open to everyone.  There may be some larger universities like this as well.   They've both joined whatever activities they've wanted.  One of the schools even had a winter activities fair so kids who maybe didn't hit the clubs they liked first semester could try something different.

My freshman has made one really good friend who is a sophomore transfer.  This person has had zero problem meeting kids and fitting in.  I would not let the fear of not making friends keep her from leaving a place where she has no friends.

Good luck!  Even just having transfer options can be helpful.  If she decides in the spring she doesn't want to leave, she doesn't have to.[/quote]

OP here.  What school is your child at?  It sounds perfect for my child.  Thank you so much.  [/quote]

Bowdoin[/quote]

My kid is having a similar experience at Colby.[/quote]

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