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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think sometimes siblings do and say things that they don't realize are hurtful/not acceptable/think are fine after years of the same behavior being tolerated. Then there is a moment were the person asserts themselves and cuts off contact.

The reality, a mature person would talk to the sibling, discuss, since in many cases the behavior was never intentional to harm, and frankly the person wasn't aware it was a problem. Might not even be aware that something they do is a problem for someone else.

Again, mature people talk these things out. Unfortunately, the person who is cutting ties WANTS no contact. They don't want to talk. Given that, there is nothing to do about it.[/quote]

I meant to add that that person who cuts off a sibling without a conversation is immature or emotionally unstable.[/quote]

I cut off siblings without conversation. Best thing i ever did -- and I mean that, even though it is a cliche. There was no "conversation" to be had in that family. I have recently reconnected, and wow, they are ll still as nuts as they were then. I honestly cannot believe they are still saddle with the same debilitating family dynamics that they were years ago. Meanwhile I have changed. It was really hard but what a difference.

Not immature or emotionally unstable at all. I did it because to continue would have been impossible. When you get to that point, you know. I always tell posters on DCUM who complain about the most trivial things are suggest or are given advice to cut people off NOT TO because it's a big deal, not to be taken lightly. Again, best decision I ever made, and reconnecting with them only reaffirmed that my decision was a sound one.[/quote]

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