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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think one thing a person can never really come back from is a racist micro aggression.  Especially at work.[/quote]

I am 99% with you, the only thing I'd say is did the person realize what they were saying? I think some people have no idea that something is a microaggression because they're an idiot, but being stupid and being mean are not the same thing. [/quote]

I agree. I think someone could come back from a racist micro aggression if it is brought to their attention and they immediately apologize, thank you for letting them know it's a micoraggression, and change future behavior. A lot of racism really is subconscious and programmed and if a person engages in it without realizing it, they should be given a chance to do better.

I'd be WAY more concerned about overt racism that is not a microagression and that anyone in 2026 would know was racist. I feel a lot less generous towards people like that, who have likely been told MANY times that their comments are racist but persist in them. Whereas a micro aggression can sometimes be something under the radar that a person isn't even aware of, like always calling on the white people in a meeting first, or expecting the black person on a team to know more about rap music than the white members. It's usually not something overt or conscious, but someone making a subconscious assumption without realizing it has racist implications.[/quote]

I agree and have An example. My mother-in-law Referenced an extended family member who is Asian as oriental to their face because she thought it was a more polite/posh way of saying Asian. She didn’t realize how outdated the term is and that it applies to objects, not people. When her mistake was corrected She felt terrible but someone not knowing my mother-in-law could have thought she was just being racist and ignorant.[/quote]

I think the intent matters. The person criticizing the cooking didn't really intend for it to be taken in any other way. It's just mean to be mean.[/quote]

Yes, I agree. However, I was responding to the statement that racial micro aggression should not be forgiven.  [/quote]

Asian here and I don't take offense at the term 'oriental' from certain demographics.
Those demographics would consist of the elderly, uneducated and maybe untouched by woke-ism sorts, like maybe an Albanian.
It is a term from another era, like calling black folks colored. That era is associated with a backwardness but some people do not connect era with fashionable vocabulary usage which continues to change. At some point the term 'Asian' will be considered backwards and offensive too because it doesn't recognize the different cultures and people's of Asia.
Some things that are considered microagressions come from rigid and judge thinking.[/quote]

Nuanced and intelligent comment, PP. I'm impressed.[/quote]

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